9 Ways to Dodge Trolls: A Feminist's Guide to Digital Security -
Anita Sarkeesian, the feminist and culture critic who created the Tropes vs. Women video series, is the target of more death threats this week, but this time it seems to actually be making it all the way to mainstream media, even getting calls to name it terrorism.
Good advice in here.
"Every woman knows this to be true: when you tell someone your age, you give them the power to decide how you’re perceived. No matter your qualifications, people are predisposed to judge what you are really “worth” to them based on your age. The point of someone asking your age is almost always so that the asker can make a judgment about you based on that age—what other reason is there? Finding out your age is a way for people to size you up, put you in a specific box, determine their expectations for you, and decide whether you meet them sufficiently."
“Why I Never Tell Anyone My Age," by Nisha Chittal.
Sweet Marie Claire #NewGuard action. Huge issue packed with lady-awesomeness. I’m about to highlight and post-it this mofo like no one’s beeswax. Love seeing great List representation in here, too, for the second year running!
Some thoughts on asking for a raise. -
In summary: You have to be your own advocate — in my experience waiting in a corner to be noticed and appreciated doesn’t work for the simple reason that everyone else is too busy worrying about other things. Use thorough, relevant data. Ask at appropriate times. Do it in a manner that feels collaborative and non-threatening if at all possible, and seek out guidance for how to climb the income and responsibility ladder with a longer term horizon in mind. If you feel strongly that you deserve more, and yet you don’t get what you want, go find it somewhere else. And if you can’t find anything better, well at least you’ve now fully determined your market price!
"It's not really about asking for the raise, but knowing, and having faith that the system will actually give you the right raises as you go along....That, I think, might be one of the additional superpowers that, quite frankly, women who don’t ask for a raise have. Because that’s good karma. It'll come back! Because somebody's gonna know, 'That's the kind of person that I want to trust. That's the kind of person that I want to really give more responsibility to.' And in the long-term efficiency, things catch up!" Even just writing that made me want to put my fist through a wall. -
Ladies, Now Is A Good Time To Ask For A Raise - Elle.com
This is a riveting listen. Also, this is riveting. Listen.
The Difference Between Lena Dunham and Aziz Ansari's Million-Dollar Book Deals. -
Lena: What?!? Who would pay $3.7 million for that? Is this terrible?! Let us wring our hands at the state of publishing, and the world!
Aziz: $3.5 million? Cool.