In summary: You have to be your own advocate — in my experience waiting in a corner to be noticed and appreciated doesn’t work for the simple reason that everyone else is too busy worrying about other things. Use thorough, relevant data. Ask at appropriate times. Do it in a manner that feels collaborative and non-threatening if at all possible, and seek out guidance for how to climb the income and responsibility ladder with a longer term horizon in mind. If you feel strongly that you deserve more, and yet you don’t get what you want, go find it somewhere else. And if you can’t find anything better, well at least you’ve now fully determined your market price!
Gov. Jerry Brown announced Sunday that he has signed a bill that makes California the first in the nation to define when “yes means yes” and adopt requirements for colleges to follow when investigating sexual assault reports.
State lawmakers last month approved SB967 by Sen. Kevin de Leon, D-Los Angeles, as states and universities across the U.S. are under pressure to change how they handle rape allegations. Campus sexual assault victims and women’s advocacy groups delivered petitions to Brown’s office on Sept. 16 urging him to sign the bill.
De Leon has said the legislation will begin a paradigm shift in how college campuses in California prevent and investigate sexual assaults. Rather than using the refrain “no means no,” the definition of consent under the bill requires “an affirmative, conscious and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity.”
"Every student deserves a learning environment that is safe and healthy," De Leon said in a statement Sunday night. "The State of California will not allow schools to sweep rape cases under the rug. We’ve shifted the conversation regarding sexual assault to one of prevention, justice, and healing."
The legislation says silence or lack of resistance does not constitute consent. Under the bill, someone who is drunk, drugged, unconscious or asleep cannot grant consent.
CAPITAL: Is there a musical that best describes your office’s day-to-day operations?
SKLAR: “The Sound of Music,” of course. As Stefon would say, it has everything - nuns, Nazis, pine cone humor, curtainwear, whistles, Canadians (Christopher Plummer!), plus amazing high notes and the Ländler and The Baroness’ outfits and lonely goats and boys on bikes who end up being total disappointments. That is JUST like our office.
“The numbers tell the story: Black women currently account for just 2 percent of lead roles (versus white women’s 48 percent) and 2 percent of supporting roles on TV, according to a 2014 UCLA study on Hollywood diversity. Open up the field to all credited actors—everyone from the star to, say, Waitress Number Four—and that number rises to only 3 percent. Those stats make sense when you consider who’s hiring and pitching: Only 3 percent of show creators and 2.3 percent of writers are black women.”—“Call Me Back, Hollywood: What It’s Like to Be a Black Woman Trying to Make It in TV" by Megan Angelo, Glamour
"Smith also has a record of focusing on digital inclusiveness. Before Google, she was the CEO of the online LGBT community PlanetOut. And she has worked to bring more women in the engineering and technology fields, including through the company’s WomenTechmakers program."
She’s also the reason Google Doodles have suddenly become more inclusive of late, via this philosophy that will surely infuse her new role:
"It’s becoming conscious of the unconscious biases we have," Smith said. "Even if you didn’t create the problem, once you become aware of it you can debug it and solve it. You can become part of the solution."
“Women’s reviews are more likely to include critical feedback..Men are given constructive suggestions. Women are given constructive suggestions – and told to pipe down…Words like bossy, abrasive, strident, and aggressive are used to describe women’s behaviors when they lead; words like emotional and irrational describe their behaviors when they object..Among these words, only aggressive shows up in men’s reviews at all. It shows up three times, twice with an exhortation to be more of it.”—
On my second day in the new town, I went to Best Buy to buy a telephone. In the store, I asked a salesperson, “Do you have old fashioned telephones as opposed to cellular phones?” He knew exactly what I meant and pointed me in the right direction.
Today, the highest court in the land ruled that the yes, Affordable Care Act violates the religious freedom of certain employers and yes, those employers can refuse to provide contraception coverage to their employees, regardless of what religious beliefs those employees may hold.
That’s pretty bananas — and not just because a decision about what kind of access a woman can have regarding their personal reproductive health was made by five dudes with penises on behalf of more dudes with penises (well actually it was made on behalf of a corporation but apparently those can have penises now, too, as long as they’re only used for praying).
“If there is such a thing as a hive mind, then there must then be such a thing as a hive brain. And reader, it was at this point that the hive brain FUCKING EXPLODED.”—Flashback: My tick tock of last year’s Texas legislature dust-up with the Wendy Davis filibuster and the GOP sleight-of-hand in trying to falsify the vote. One year later it is just as jaw-dropping. #standwithwendy
“It may surprise you, but I found that Hollywood wasn’t begging for a sitcom about a chubby Indian gynecologist who’s unlucky in love but burns through hot dudes every week,” she said. “Well, bad news, Hollywood, that’s what you got. And it’s even harder for you. At least there were a handful of cool women who blazed the trail for me. You have even fewer, which is all the more reason this is so important.”—
Mindy Kaling at Google’s “Made With Code” launch event, via Betabeat.
p.s. Mindy’s all up in coding thanks to her BFF Jocelyn Leavitt, founder of girls-coding app Hopscotch. Visibility really DOES make a difference!
“The fact that we see more and more women shows me that that paradigm is shifting,” Sklar says. “It’s starting to be bad business to go by the old tropes of pattern recognition. The smart money is to bet on diversity and new markets because that’s how we innovate.”—From “‘She Started It’ aims to change Silicon Valley’s Gender Inequity Problem,” by Vivian Giang, Fast Company.
The first time I read “Phenomenal Woman” I was struck by how she celebrated black women’s beauty like no one had ever dared to before. Our curves, our stride, our strength, our grace. Her words were clever, and sassy. They were powerful and sexual and boastful. And in that one singular poem, Maya Angelou spoke to the essence of black women but she also graced us with an anthem for all women, a call for all of us to embrace our God-given beauty.
And oh, how desperately black girls needed that message. I needed that message.
”— Michelle Obama at Maya Angelou’s memorial service, in a powerful and very personal tribute. Full transcript here.
Disney’s Maleficent brought in $70 Million at the box office during its opening weekend. The real significance of the film, however, has nothing to do with revenue. Instead, it represents a cultural shift that can potentially have profound implications for our children.
by Jessanne Collins, former Playgirl editor (and reluctant model)
"Anyone who’s worked in an adult industries will tell you that when it comes down to it, it’s just business. Producing porn feels like producing anything else—spark plugs, catalogs—the only difference is that in this case the materials involved are bodies. In between, it’s just paperwork and networking, like any job."
“#ChangeTheRatio: Founded by Rachel Sklar in 2010, #changetheratio is an ongoing campaign/movement to increase visibility, access and opportunity for women in all walks of their professional lives. When a power list or major industry event lacks female representation, you can bet that the Change the Ratio hashtag will rear its head on Twitter.”—Pleased to be included in “Empowering Women And Girls, One Hashtag At A Time" by Susan McPherson in Forbes.
“But it matters that a year ago, in absence of a detailed story like her bungling of the digital deputy hire, or reporting on missteps and indecision she may have exhibited in staffing matters, the way her shortcomings were conveyed, both by the employees who spoke to Byers and then by Byers himself, was through a story of how she made a male colleague so mad that he hit a wall. It showed how male professional exasperation, even physically expressed, is so easily assumed to be rational that it must speak to exactly how unreasonable the woman in question is. By contrast, female exasperation—conveyed by Byers through another tale of Abramson snapping at a photo editor in the manner of every editor I’ve ever worked for—conveniently also works as an example of Abramson’s irrationality.”—Rebecca Traister, “Jill Abramson’s Firing Was About Gender. And Also Not About Gender. Why we always ask the wrong questions about sexism.”